Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Dude, fuck Microsoft Teams. If I was in this situation with you and received an invite for a Teams meeting I'd block your number.

So the key takeaway here is that it isn't a sexually intimate relationship with Jody that you'd find repulsive, it would be his use of Microsoft Teams...did I understand that correctly?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

Queue the Meatloaf again. Lol

It's always on standby sir.

Originally Posted by Joekerr

So the key takeaway here is that it isn't a sexually intimate relationship with Jody that you'd find repulsive, it would be his use of Microsoft Teams...did I understand that correctly?

I didn't read between the lines this time. Aw shucks, CT...

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Gentlemen, I had a talk with the ex-girlfriend last night. You're all fired. No empire for now.

We are going to have a sit down discussion Saturday. Now that tensions have died down, we are going to talk and decide what the best thing to do is. I asked her to come up with a list of things that she wants/expects from a relationship and I will do the same. We'll start with non-negotiable standards so that neither of us feel neglected or over-extended but yet still have our time to get done what we need in each of our personal lives. I also explained that if we come to the resolution that between her life/schedule/kids and my responsibilities, that if we can't make it work to where we can't get what we need from each other, then we need to go our separate ways. At this point, I'm good with either of the options, as long as the decision that gets made is based off genuine appreciation of the other persons life and their ability to give the other what they need to feel secure in the relationship. I'd rather walk away knowing that we just couldn't make it work for what need rather tossing 4 years away over a bad argument.

Curious as to your thoughts on this approach. Go....

having a sit down is always good to clear the air, do's and don't when it comes to arguement. in the moment of anger we can say hurtful things that we dont mean. we dont forget those moments. if love is mutual, you guys can work it out. if one of you has had a change of heart or slighty drifted away then it wont work. one person will be doing all the work to stay together. This the right time to lay all the cards out, listen to each other.
A relationship is about love, respect and commitment.
good luck i wish you guys can work it out.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

So the key takeaway here is that it isn't a sexually intimate relationship with Jody that you'd find repulsive, it would be his use of Microsoft Teams...did I understand that correctly?

I mean considering my dealings with Teams lately... maybe.


Joking aside, a Zoom or Teams with you guys while I'm at work would be pretty badass.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Do....you and your wife live in the same house? Same bedroom?

I'm gobsmacked at how this is possible otherwise. Seriously. I mean that's great, but I'm just amazed.

Yes, and yes. Our house is a small 2 bedroom, and seven months of COVID-geddon lockdown hasn't changed anything. Separate bank accounts, and more importantly separate toolboxes. My pay checks cover whatever vehicle(s) that I want, 100% of our housing, utilities, insurance, etc. Her checks cover groceries and payments/maintenance on any vehicle(s) that she wants. We are co-owners of each other's bank accounts, but only for emergencies like when I was in the hospital for an extended stay a few years back.

I am of the herding cats management philosophy in every thing that I do. Give them the freedom to choose their own paths, and gently give them a nudge away from danger if I am concerned that they might fall off the proverbial cliff. Explain why you are concerned, but always let them make their own decisions.

When I brought her out to meet my racing buddies when we first met, she was crawling under my car in the paddock to pry a pebble out of a brake rotor. The guy who wound up being the best man at our wedding pulled me aside, to ask if she had a sister? She was a professional mechanic, and I am grateful every single day to have married the ultimate unicorn.....

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I mean considering my dealings with Teams lately... maybe.


Joking aside, a Zoom or Teams with you guys while I'm at work would be pretty badass.

We should have a boys night through Zoom. Discord video chat comes to mind.

Originally Posted by vreihen16

Yes, and yes. Our house is a small 2 bedroom, and seven months of COVID-geddon lockdown hasn't changed anything. Separate bank accounts, and more importantly separate toolboxes. My pay checks cover whatever vehicle(s) that I want, 100% of our housing, utilities, insurance, etc. Her checks cover groceries and payments/maintenance on any vehicle(s) that she wants. We are co-owners of each other's bank accounts, but only for emergencies like when I was in the hospital for an extended stay a few years back.

I am of the herding cats management philosophy in every thing that I do. Give them the freedom to choose their own paths, and gently give them a nudge away from danger if I am concerned that they might fall off the proverbial cliff. Explain why you are concerned, but always let them make their own decisions.

When I brought her out to meet my racing buddies when we first met, she was crawling under my car in the paddock to pry a pebble out of a brake rotor. The guy who wound up being the best man at our wedding pulled me aside, to ask if she had a sister? She was a professional mechanic, and I am grateful every single day to have married the ultimate unicorn.....

That's how you herd cats?
That's how my parents raised me...

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

We should have a boys night through Zoom. Discord video chat comes to mind.

I'd be down.

[rebekahb]

@King Rudi haven't been on in a few days and didn't want to leave you hanging. Never do I ever want a guy to send me a dick pic. I wouldn't ask either. You can have the best looking dick in the world but if you don't know how to use it, I don't care how good it looks. Just my 2 cents!

[upstatedoc]

what's going on here?

[DocL]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

what's going on here?

I'm wondering the same thing? Sounds like a Dr. Ruth session.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by DocL

I'm wondering the same thing? Sounds like a Dr. Ruth session.

Does anyone know what Dr. Ruth's favorite word in the English language is?????

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

Does anyone know what Dr. Ruth's favorite word in the English language is?????

My most embarrassing moment as a new freshman in college involved Dr. Ruth. I have the new gf at the house for a family evening...she was from Nashville. Dinner finished and I'm sitting with her on the couch and my parents and younger brother are still hanging out. We flip over to MTV to listen to music (go figure) and Dr. Ruth is on and says, "Ladies, when is the last time you told your husband or bf what a great penis he has." I'm trying to press the remote and change the channel but it took a second to register. Dead silence in the room. It lasted about 32 years.

To this day I don't know what the follow-up question/suggestion was but it began, "Once you do that...", and mercifully the channel changed.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

If a prenup puts an immediate end to the relationship, that just demonstrates the need for a prenup.

And I hate to disappoint you, but there is NO WAY to be 100% triple sure. People suck.

with the current divorce rate, I'd be surprised if people go into marriage without a prenup.

If you're with me, what's mines is yours. But if you're not with me, the story changes and I shouldn't be entitled to give you shit.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

It might be worth a few visits with a professional relationship counselor.

Disclaimer - I've been happily married for 16 years without one argument, so I have zero experience in this area.....

16 years no arguments? What the FUCK?

I would ask if y'all even live together, but shit even if you don't.... people do still argue. I'm amazed.

[FastF30]

I have a couple of young millennial friends... all I got to say is glad I'm married and will do just about anything possible to stay married cause I'm way to scared of being single in today's environment...

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by premier3is

16 years no arguments? What the FUCK?

I would ask if y'all even live together, but shit even if you don't.... people do still argue. I'm amazed.

+1, I'm wondering what we're qualifying as an 'argument' here. I can't imagine going 16 years without a single disagreement.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

+1, I'm wondering what we're qualifying as an 'argument' here. I can't imagine going 16 years without a single disagreement.

Same lol.

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

+1, I'm wondering what we're qualifying as an 'argument' here. I can't imagine going 16 years without a single disagreement.

Neither has any bullet wounds, so no argument

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

+1, I'm wondering what we're qualifying as an 'argument' here. I can't imagine going 16 years without a single disagreement.

You would be amazed at how powerful disputatio can be in preventing disagreements from turning into arguments.....

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by rebekahb

@King Rudi haven't been on in a few days and didn't want to leave you hanging. Never do I ever want a guy to send me a dick pic. I wouldn't ask either. You can have the best looking dick in the world but if you don't know how to use it, I don't care how good it looks. Just my 2 cents!

You know, I've never understood it. In the past anytime that I've been asked for one, it's as if they were surprised that I didn't have stock photo on deck to fire off at a seconds notice. This only leads me to believe that most men do.

I don't even have any selfies in my phone. The only pictures of me are pictures that I've either taken in selfie mode with another person or shots that have been taken of me. To me the selfie or any variation thereof just seems vain.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by FastF30

I have a couple of young millennial friends... all I got to say is glad I'm married and will do just about anything possible to stay married cause I'm way to scared of being single in today's environment...

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Be afraid. Be very afraid.

Indeed. In this day and age, becoming a Buddhist monk would be more fulfilling.